How To Realize

The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel.

Excerpt #41

Lately, I’ve been trying to understand life from a much different perspective. Often, we use words to identify, interpret, translate and, in a sense, own our situations. In other words, what we observe and conceptualize on an external level adds to our “story” or identification. A question arose in my mind. How can one instead realize (in this case, realize means “know”) an end result without labeling?

As a practice, I might have mentioned trying to be the witness of any given situation in your life. In other words, refrain from labeling what you see, hear, touch or feel. Just observe. This is difficult to do as we are so conditioned from childhood to identify or name things. Inevitably, this is how we begin to conceptualize our world and our personal (personality) story.

Last night, I was watching an interior design challenge show. I was fascinated by the three potential designers’ visions regarding how they would go about decorating similar bedrooms. One of them said, “It would be so great if the homeowners can realize how the room will look once it is done.”

It occurred to me that the designer’s interpretation of “realize” was the end product or what she “imaged in” that room. Hence, tapping into her imagination, she already saw the end product and the associated feelings (happiness, satisfaction) before tackling the laborious job ahead. The clients couldn’t imagine that her designs would work coherently. They couldn’t realize the end product.

This brought me to some further pondering about realizing something from a deeper level. Perhaps artists and great visionaries have an easier time imagining and knowing what the end product will look like because they see things with their “real eyes.” I’m not trying to be “punny,” seriously. I mean that artists and visionaries tend to have an easier go because they are “seeing” through their internal heart space, not through the external place of naming and labeling.

For example, a great sculptor can look at a marble block and already see the potential of a form emerging. This must be tapped into from an extraordinary and creative place. The same would go for a plastic surgeon. They tap into that part within themselves to see or realize the beauty in the end result of their work. This is quite amazing when you think about it from this perspective.

Before you consider judging a situation, allow yourself to tap into your heart space for guidance and realization. Be open and let your internal self or your essence-self guide and lead. Sometimes, it takes others in our life to lead us in that direction, to help us to utilize our “real eyes,” to realize, and this is a good thing. However, I believe that we all have access to this inherent space within and that it can be tapped into, tuned into through stillness and faith.

Originally published at on March 18, 2021.



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Nettie Vaughan

Consciousness Awareness Writer and Frequency Facilitator Coach: Organize Your Life. Create Great Habits. Raise Your Frequency.